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My husband and myself are both enlistees of different military branches. He is active duty Air Force while I am Army National Guard, a civilian employee, and mother of 2. If anyone knows what it means to literally be 'too tired for sex' it is us! At first we had sex all the time, after a while it became only the weekends, and then finally a horrible once or twice a month! Our New Year's resolution was to spice up our sex life and here's how we did it:
1. We attended a couples Passion Party and took great interest in a lot of products that where offered. We never used toys, creams or lubes so just the excitement of each new item we purchased made us anxious to try them out!
2. Not many women are into porn, however most men are. So I decided to not let my man's porn watching be a solo act. I would even initiate by putting one on the tv then acting out the scenes with him. I would play this role as if I am competing with the girl on the screen and I win every time
3. Finally, we decided to take our usual date night to a new level. Instead of our typical dinner and a movie/bowling, we decided to rent a hotel room once a week. Depending on your finances a $65 room once a week isn't too bad. If you want to take it down a notch then you could do once every 2 weeks, or even once a month to just get a hotel room and go crazy! We would go to the pool for a late night swim, sit in the jacuzzi all day, and make as much noise as we wanted without worrying about the neighbors. Plus it feels nice for someone else to make the bed up for us!
-KandyGiirl
Between house projects, busy careers, and two demanding kids, we don't have a lot of time for us. We squeeze in the spice when we can!
We send each other racy text messages throughout the day so we have something to look forward to that night. I may be wearing comfy sweats when he gets home from work, but underneath I am wearing some naughty lingerie. I make sure he can see the strap of the lingerie and as soon as the kid are asleep we practically attack one another. We have been known to occasionally grab a quickie in the car on the way home from running errands if the mood strikes.
Spontaneity and flirting definitely keep our sex life alive!
"Taking Reservations"
Anticipation is a great one for us- While I love the treat of a great dinner out, I also like to have some wine with dinner & not worry about either of us driving. So I create a dinner of small plates, most done ahead of time & we splurge on a fabulou bottle of wine- which doesn't at all have to be expensive, just very red! Who knew crab cakes from Wegman's end up feeling like a million dollar dish when all you have to do it pop them in the oven for 12 minutes?!
A parade of appetizers feels like a splurge & candles & dinner music set the mood. Any special requests are errrrr, honored as well!
It just works if we build an evening around it, rather than have it be a tack on that may or may not happen. And I find I had gotten sort of tired of ending up in the living room (heh) so I make sure to make the bedroom up with fresh sheets, candles (flameless) & generally as much of a resort type feel as I can give it- nice linen spray. Just kind of set the possibilities in motion & smooth the way.
My husband and I have learned that there is nothing sexier than being honest with each other through communicating our sexual needs to each other. Whether it be through a random phone call, text, or whisper during a romantic dinner...telling each other what we want each other to do in detail turns us on so much!
Communication doesn't stop there. Once we are, *ahem*, doing the deed, we are still telling each other what to do, where to go, and what we like the most...continously exploring each other and new things.
We are newlyweds, so we are still learning and discovering parts of one another. It is always fun and exciting. We intend to keep it that way.
....and tying each other up every now and then never hurts either.
We met when we were both active duty military (Navy) and now we are both reservist. We are so busy between work, our daughter, school (for me) that sometimes it doesn't seem like we have time to breathe. However, we always find time for intimacy and to show each other the love we have. What works for us are a few things actually.
1) When you come home to each other, think as if you have not seen each other in a long time. The need to be with him is immeasurable.
2) Don't loose the "puppy love." Even though we are extremely comfortable with each other and can do the most non-sexy things around each other, we keep the "puppy love" by actually asking the other out on a date, leaving notes in the morning for each other, or cuddling at the movies like teenagers.
3) "Club Couple" This has to be one of my favorite things. We have a night, maybe a Friday or Saturday night where it is just the two of us. We make cocktails and bring out the WII Just Dance. The laughter is non-stop, and the competitiveness of it is a huge turn on. Plus It's a great work out!!
4) Never ever under any circumstances say goodbye without telling each other "I love you." Even if you guys just had a massive fight, ALWAYS say I love you before walking out the door. It lets them know that you really do.
It definitely takes two to tango but each individual needs to feel sexy before even thinking about getting into the mood.
For me, I find it incredibly important to feel sexy in order to keep sex a priority. We (okay, I) get caught up with the hustle and bustle of every day stress. We're creatures of habit. Whenever I get into a routine (basic make-up, comfy "fat" jeans, old sneakers) I try to catch myself before it's too late and channel my inner Sophia Loren.
I take the time to "sexify" myself -- Mani/pedi; mud masks; haircut; dress; perfume; heels and dark charcoal eyeshadow with heavy liner. Suddenly, I'm reminded how extraordinary it is to be a woman in this age. I don't need to dress like an Italian film siren every day (nor do I want to!) but it's powerful to know I can and that it's a choice whenever I feel like it.
It definitely takes two to tango but each individual needs to feel sexy before even thinking about getting into the mood.
For me, I find it incredibly important to feel sexy in order to keep sex a priority. We (okay, I) get caught up with the hustle and bustle of every day stress. We're creatures of habit. Whenever I get into a routine (basic make-up, comfy "fat" jeans, old sneakers) I try to catch myself before it's too late and channel my inner Sophia Loren.
I take the time to "sexify" myself -- Mani/pedi; mud masks; haircut; dress; perfume; heels and dark charcoal eyeshadow with heavy liner. Suddenly, I'm reminded how extraordinary it is to be a woman in this age. I don't need to dress like an Italian film siren every day (nor do I want to!) but it's powerful to know I can and that it's a choice whenever I feel like it.We know we are one another's sole source of sexual satisfaction and we take that VERY seriously. The routine of marriage can make you comfortable, but it's best not to get too comfortable. I'm a sexual creature and I intend to make it easy for my husband to see me that way. It's the little daily things that go a long way. I'll keep the unsexy things about daily life that he never saw when we were dating and make the everyday things seem sexy in a very innocent and accidental (or at least he thinks so) way. From always keeping the door shut when I am going to the bathroom (there's nothing sexy about squatting on the john) or it's letting just the top of my lace underwear show when I bend over to pull the casserole out of oven. Something as innocent as the kitchen can become a hot place to make love. Those chairs at the island are just the right height...The stairs provide different levels of comfort so that he can apply those kisses in just the right place comfortably...An afternoon of gardening can turn into a wet t-shirt contest that ends in the shower. Sweatpants are traded in for tights and a thong. Hairy legs are kept smooth. Gum and mints are sprinkled all over our house. The evening news is turned off for soft jazz and a glass of wine. The little things we do have us in the mood every time we are together.
Kelly Chaney
420 Rainey Ave
Grove City PA 16127
08/10/1985
thegrinchface@aol.com
chaneykc1
It is so hard to find time for each other during the day. We are both students about to be done with school. I am in politics/ law and my love is an engineer. The best and quickest way for us to reconnect is when we chase each other around the house and pester the other person with a tickle war!!! The childlike flirting and a bit of play fighting always helps us forget the day and it stresses, we are solely concentrated on each other during that time. The physical touching and the a bit of resistance/power struggle turns us both on plus it fun!!!
We are waiting any day now to find out if my Love got a job in Cincinnati, Ohio. So now more than ever we need each other and to be close. Not sure if we will have to move, not sure if are lives will be turned upside down.
PS. I f he gets this job were getting ENGAGED!!!! We have been together for almost 5 years!!!
We work out together then get chinese Food, after that massage..... then shower!
We work out together then get chinese Food, after that, massage..... then shower!
We love to get it on before a party or event - it's fun and it's our little secret that makes us feel closer for the rest of the night.
My husband and I like to relive our sexual encounters from when we dated. When we dated we experimented different places to help satisfy the excitement in sex and a new relationship. Every Spring, we LOVE to go to the car wash... The Automatic car wash where the doors close in front and behind you. This is very sensual and erotic to try and satisfy one another before the doors open and no one has a clue what happeneds behind those doors.
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~~Kristen and Mike Warwick
We hide little notes around the house of how and where we want it- then when one of us stumbles across it- we make sure it gets fulfilled!! You never know when one is going to pop up, and most times we don't hide them too well=)
I have 2 children so having sex can sometimes become a difficult task but somehow we manage to have sex every single day, at least once a day, if not more. Except for the one day a week that we spend apart so that we dont become too complacent with each other. Plus it makes me want to have sex with him that much more the day he comes home to me. I have found that it takes selflessness to be able to have sex every day. Some days I do not feel like having sex but then I decide that if it were the other way around that I wouldnt want him to tell me no because it would make me feel like there was some reason that he didnt want to have sex with me. So we both try to keep it interesting. We have experimented with different positions, foreplay, different methods of sex (if you know what I mean), toys, role playing, in different parts of our home. We are a very intimate couple and we enjoy making each other happy through sexual interaction. Hope this helps!