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Re: Join our Sexathon! Enter to Win 4 Nights in St. Lucia
My husband and I have been married for 19 months, but have been together for 3 years as of St. Patrick's Day this year. When we first got together I wanted to wait to have sex. In previous relationships, I had sex right away & after a few months things went wrong, we didn't know anything about each other, ect... My husband agreed and we didn't have sex for almost 2 months.
We would stay up all night talking, listening to music, drinking wine & lots of kissing, snuggling, spooning & touching. Needless to say, we were turned on 24/7. When we finally had sex, it was earth shattering & from then on we had sex 2 or 3 times a day, everyday for over a year.
Now we both have jobs with different schedules, we are trying to pay off a new truck & y husband works 15 hours a day with only one day off and it's not the same day off I have. To spice things up & keep it new & adventurous, we go for a drive, find a dirt road & pull over. Having sex against the car, on a road where someone can drive by is very exciting. We also buy toys & browse for them online which gets us in the mood.
We try to have date night once a week or every 2 weeks. We like to walk a lot & go fishing & camping & we never pass up an opportunity to have sex in the great outdoors. We have been talking about adding role playing to our intimate fun, just talking about it turns us on. We send each other sexy texts while we are at work & sexy pictures too. By the time we get home we can't keep our hands off each other. I slip love notes in his lunch or shirt pocket too & tell him how sexy he is & that I can't wait to see him. Even after 3 years, his touch and kisses still give me butterflies & his smile still turns me on. I know we will have a great sex life even when we are old.
We took the television out of our bedroom, so we had to find another activity to wind down at night.
My name is Jenn, me and my fiancee' Brian, have been together since 11/6/2008, and we'll be getting married 11/6/11. Our relationship started out hot and heavy, we moved in together 6 months later. About 2 months after moving in we decided that you can always get married, your whole life you can always decide hey i know we're 60 but lets do it! but you only have a certain window to have a baby so in june last year we decided that we wanted a baby first and started trying in early august and with in 3 weeks i was pregnant! Our sex life was wonderful through most of the pregnancy, after the baby was born though, it completely took a nose dive. Now our sex life consists of 1-2 time every other week if we're lucky, normally i have to have a few glasses of wine to loosen up and it isn't that long of a love making session...if you can call it that. Between the baby, moving, me being laid off, and planning the wedding, and him being a roofer which leaves him exhausted, we have a lot on our plate and are both very stressed. So recently we went back to what got me in the mood when i was pregnant, back massages! slowly moving farther south to the gluts
But i tink the thing that has been working best since the massage thing is getting old and tandem showering works for him and not me, is this WONDERFUL book we picked up on vacation in Ireland 2 years ago. While perusing a lingerie in Dublin we came across a modern detailed version of the Kama Sutra! It'samazing how well it works! he starts off with little light touches and caresses all over and slowly works his way toawards more sensitive areas, and while kissing we find the areas on the scalp that cause arousal and either massage each others heads there or twist our fingers in each others hair and gently pull. THAT ALWAYS GETS IT GOING AND LEADS TO A MINIMUM OF AN HOUR LONG LOVE MAKING SESSION!!! Also the nightstand full of toys and accessories gifted to me from my friend who owns an online sex shop doesn't hurt either 
also experimenting with "advanced positions" helps him go for multiple orgasms
My husband and I do a little bit of acting... in the bedroom!
Sometimes he's Rolando my 'masseuse', or he's the teacher and I'm the student (so naughty!
), or he'll be the pizza delivery boy at the door, etc. We like to spice things up!
Woo hoo for hot sex!
Make it fun. There are plan things that you can make to use in the bedroom. We have made a dice out of a box that has on each side something that we each want to try. Then all you have to do is roll the dice and have fun trying some new things.
Also spicing it up with different places to have sex and different positions to keep it all fresh and fun.
We are still young but have been together since junior high, so to keep things fun we often pretend (or relive) how it was to sneak around in high school...
we even snuck back to our old high school and did it on the 50 yard line!
TOUCH DOWN
There are 2 ways that I ensure that we will always have passionate, fulfilling sex:
1. By making sure that the air is always clear between the two of us, and there are no unspoken/hidden resentments. Resentments are a poison that get between the intimacy of two people. For this we are learning how to be calm and settle our differences calmly with maturity and with a win-win attitude. Always remember that your spouse comes first because this is the person you are spending the rest of your life with- its important to keep them happy!!
2. I fantasize about sex in different situations with my spouse- I do this at work, in the kitchen, whenever you are free!! This visualization gets me very motivated and willing...In an atmosphere of love and giving- your spouse will be more than likely to try and make your fantasies come true, and this will encourage them to share more and open up more as well. Watch the fireworks that happen then!!
-taniaadams
Getting alone time can be challenging with such busy lives! We want sex to be fun and not just a routine in our schedules. My husband and I have a secret sign that means "I'm in the mood". So when we are out in a public place, or out with friends, I will look over and give him an eyebrow raise or a wink. Then as the night goes on we will start giving the sign to each other along with flirty looks or gestures. By the time we are home, we can't get in the house quick enough. It is fun and exciting to feel secretive about what we are "saying" to each other, without talking. We also feel a little risky being out in public or around people we know. Plus the anticipation of sex makes everything better!
Just keep talking about it! Talk about it and soon enough, you are in the mood!
We plan one night a month were we take our daughter over to Grandmas house and we will have a stay-at-home date night. We order dinner at a restraunt and then bring it home and eat while watching a movie. After the movie we will take a warm shower together and then spend some quality alone time in bed. We don't have to spend hardly any money and we get to enjoy being at home but we get to be alone. It is perfect!!!!!