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The best thing we have ever done for our marriage is to make sex a priority. We have sex EVERYDAY. For the past 5 years, and two kids later, we still find time once (and sometimes twice) a day to reconnect. It is pretty impossible to stay mad at eachother or become too distant when we know that at the end of everyday we will put our differences aside and do the deed ;-).
My husband is my best friend; he was my high school sweetheart, and he will always be the love of my life. I get giddy just being in his presence. And I truly believe that an O a day will keep the divorce attorney away. It is working for us and I know that it will work for you.
Edit to clarify: We have been married 7 years, but for the past 5 I have made a commitment to have sex everyday with my husband. We have been together for 12 years total.
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Possibly the weirdest analogy to grace these pages, but it's the one that popped into my mind and it goes with the anomaly of me- a guy- posting here:
You know how if the airbags deploy on an airplane, you are supposed to put yur own on first before helping your neighbor? That's my perspective of keeping the kick in our sex life.
Taking care of yourself- eating healthily, exercising, developing your interests, learning your strengths and limits and how to work with them- means you are then better able to take care of your partner- in all those ways, and- oh yeah!- sexually.
The misery-loves-company thing is bunk when it comes to sex. If, instead of hot, you're feeling kinda lukewarm, you're usually not so eager to share your blah with someone.
Wear sexy lingerie because YOU feel sexy- it's just scraps of lace and whatnot, it doesn't even do a good job covering up your body; you can't expect it to cover over your "meh" state of mind.
Be good to yourself, feel good about yourself, and wanting to do good (insert dirty wink here) unto others will follow on naturally.
And be open to sex- it's too big a part of a relationship to try to pigeonhole it under "Bed" or "Monday nights" or "When the moon is a quarter full, her hair is doing that cool little kick thing and my old jeans finally fit". It'll fight ya if you try.
Role playing for sure! There are so many scenarios that can keep things interesting so that each person won't feel like they are the giver/taker all the time. Another way to keep things interesting is leaving sexy notes in places that we'll see so that when we're at work we'll be thinking of each other. One other way is when we're out, we slightly touch each other, either holding hands or playing footsie but nothing serious until we get home.. and that's when all the tension from the night comes out.
Wrestling.
We both love wrestling so when it's on,we are so in-tune that naturally when it ends we take things to the next room and use that "wrestling high" to make the room steamy,if you catch my drift!
And wrestling now comes on at least 3 times a week so yah!
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There are multiple ways my husband and I keep the passion alive in our marriage, but my favorite is holding hands as we lay in bed each night before we go to sleep. All he has to say is give me your hand and I know everything will be ok. Often times this leads to some of the most intimate and intense encounters and other times we are able to fall asleep peacefully knowing we have each other.
With all the daily stresses of work, meetings, appointments, in-laws, or even home-life, my husband and I always need to keep sex in-check. It's one of the things that brings the two of us closer when everything around us tears us in opposite directions. SO to keep sex sexy....
I wait until the last minute to spring on him. He gets home from work, dinner's ready, we enjoy a night watching tv or doing our routine thing. But right before we go to get ready for bed, I walk over to him, kiss him on the head and pull him off the sofa. He knows exactly what I'm looking for, but having the normal day turn into a wild adventure--it's exhilarating and keeps him on the look out. He'll do the same for me if I've had a rough day. Sometimes he'll surprise me when I'm in the shower or even while preparing dinner.
Keeping your partner surprised and giving them different experiences is what keeps me and my man happy and sexually happy! I hope this helps all you fellow Nest-ers out there!
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I recently made a new purchase that gets the husband "worked up." I decided to buy "Good Head" oral gel, which makes the whole process a bit "tastier" and actually eases the gag reflex. On top of that, we have a "middle of the night rule:" If one of us wakes up in the middle of the night and really wants to have sex, it's okay to wake the other person up for a little midnight action (so we prioritze sex over sleep!).
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It is very easy to get caught up in life and feel there is no time for romance but why is romance what we tend to cut out of our hectic lives first?! My husband and I first and foremost are open about discussing our ruts and what we need to get out of them. Sometimes it will be sexy text messages, other times we'll pull out a book of positions and each pick one we want to try. Ruts are easy to get out of if you're both willing to put forth a little effort.
We don't have kids yet but we still have a date night pretty regularly. Whatever we do- cook dinner together if funds are tight or go out- spending the evening taking time out of our busy lives and reconnecting always heats things up later in the bedroom.
Also we're spontanious. Whenever and where ever the mood strikes we listen to it, even if there are dishes that need to be done or we are running late. Nothing is as important as spending time being close and intimate!
L19Christy here, and I should starting taking my own advice. It's hard to remember that this person I live with is not only my best friend and roommate, but also my sole sexual intimate romantic interest!! Usually, halfway through the "deed", I'm thinking about whether dinner's burning, or the dog's piddling on the carpet, or if I confirmed tomorrow's appointments, and the list goes on. Just as commonly, we're already late for a birthday party or lacrosse game, and he wants to get in a half-hour romp! It's hard to enjoy sex, when it's just another item to check off the list.
Scheduling everything ELSE around sex-time seems to take the pressure off getting "it" in. Sometimes that means scheduling the sex itself (not very personal, but can be very enjoyable when you don't have a time limit!), and sometimes that means letting dinner overcook, ignoring the dog, or accepting being late to his cousin's birthday party. Once in a while, maybe spontaneously wake up at 2am to use the bathroom, and then get some lovin' in! Ultimately, the relationship with my husband is the most important one I have, and keeping it healthy needs to be a priority!
I don't think you should have to "make time" for sex. I just think, you should always want it. Sex makes a relationship healthy, more stable, more solid. You have this special connection with your spouse, then any other time.
To spice things up, we will either do role play, different positions, different places or in public. Not really in public where people can see us. It just makes everything more hot and new. Every now and then couples need to do some new things, to spice it up. Sex can get boring, so that's why we always change it up.
Be considerate: don't push your spouse further than they are ready to go
Be consistent: maximize opportunities for romance and intimacy that do not involve sex
Be alert: learn what turns your spouse on
My hubby and I just got married in August of 2010, even though we are newlyweds we have been together 7 years. So we have been doing this dance for a while. There is not just one specific thing we do to get in the mood. We like to change it up all the time, keeping things interesting. Here are just a few things we like to do.;
I like taking sexy pictures of myself and leaving them for him to find later.
Doing the deed in new places
Working out together is always a turn on.
Surprising each other with new sex items
Wrestling around and just being silly
Declaring a ?no clothes aloud? evening (you guessed it we don?t have kids yet) J
Whispering something in a sexy voice to one another back and forth
Naked twister anyone!
My husband and I like to make "sex bets." So if we're uncertain about something the other is saying (which happens often LOL), we make a "sex bet." For example, the other night we were watching Jeopardy and I said I knew the answer to the Final Jeopardy question, he was uncertain if I was right so I said, "I bet you an all oral night that I'm right." He accepted. I won! The bets usually range from time of day, location, type, etc... all around sex of course. It has been our little way of getting our gamble on in a healthy fun way. Because really, this way, there is no loser!
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Sometimes a new adult movie can do the trick!
Until I met my sweetie I never knew that sex could be so enjoyable. We both want it ALL of the time. I think the first key to great sex is to be with the right partner! You have to friends first and be fully connected emotionally before you can have great sex.
When you are with the right person you lose all inhibitions and anything goes. The right partner will go all out to satisfy you completely and you will do the same for them.
I really think that most foreplay happens before you even get to the bedroom. We constantly touch and kiss. I leave him love notes to find in odd places in the house. We text all day. Regular messages and sexy messages too. Every once in awhile I will surprise him with a sexy pic while he is at work. I would love to see the look on his face when he gets a pic while he has a client in his barber chair...lol.
We have date nights of course and on occasion we go to a hotel for a night or two just to get away from home. We always choose one with a jacuzzi in the room so we can really enjoy each other. We are saving to stay at a pool suites hotel that has a pool in each individual room...i hope they are ready for us!
At home we cook for each other or cook together sometimes clothed, sometimes not. (just watch out for hot grease if you choose to do this unclothed
) We love to light candles and to play romantic music. The best candles are massage candles. They smell wonderful and can be used for the best massages that usually lead to great sex. We never limit sex to the bedroom. If the urge hits that's where it goes down! You can always disinfect the kitchen counter later! If we are in the car and the mood strikes it goes down in the car. We have had to pull over to get busy. It makes it exciting...the thrill of not knowing if you are going to get caught. We also go to the adult toy store and incorporate toys and gels into our sex life. It really does help to keep things exciting. As far as new moves...wow. I think we have made up a few new ones that aren't even in the books yet...lol. I don't know how we ended up in them and some of them I'm not sure how we got out of them...lol.
We don't take sex too seriously. We laugh a lot. Things don't always work out the way we expect them to. But when you are in love somehow your bodies take over and start communicating what you verbally can't.
For the first time in my life i am completely in love and completely sexually satisfied. In fact, he is on his way home now.......gotta go light some candles
I feel as if our sex lives are better than ever, now that we have been married for 2 years. I know what he likes and vice versa. We can truly please each other now that we know exactly what the other wants.
To keep things steamy on long, work filled days, I surprise him by joining him in the shower..which needless to say gets sizzling.
Our favorite is Saturday morning sex. We rarely have off Saturday mornings together, so when we do, good-morning love making is a must!
Going to the gym and getting a good workout in about 3 times a week is very important as well. If you feel good about yourself, you will enjoy the intimate moments with your spouse all the more!