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We've really been keeping each other busy when we come home from school (we're both teachers). Our favorite way to reward one another is a snuggle on the couch that leads to some lovely caressing and fondling which will give way to us running for the bedroom. Lately, his newest form of entertainment has been coming into the room and undressing me when we get home. He never lets "the girls" feel lonely.
We've taken recently to making love with the song "Clair de Lune" by Debussey. I just put it on repeat and let the music carry us away. The hubby really really gets into it when the song is on.
We've begun working out since January and we have also noticed an uplift in our willingness and ability to "go longer" since then. We also have a favorite day of the week to have sex....ours is Friday afternoon/evening sex. It is our way to celebrate after long week at school with taxing children.
How to keep it sizzling?
Just lay one on him. Start smoochin' him the way you did when you first started dating. If you're into it, he'll follow suit. At the least it'll release endorphins and neurotransmitters that make both of you feel good!
LizRS21
I like to wear all the pretty, pretty lingerie I received at my fabulous bridal shower. My husband has one particular favorite, and it?s the same outfit I broke out for the wedding night. Rekindling the memory of that day is uber romantic, makes me feel super sexy and it also reminds us how far we?ve come.
I?m also a big fan of the ?afternoon delight,? so much so that I find myself humming the song on my way home for lunch. So, if you can eat midday at your own casa, there?s nothing better. And less distractions (and there are more at nighttime than I can count) means more time for fun!
For some reason, when we?re cooking dinner together in the kitchen, it gets my better half all riled up. So we make an effort to prepare meals together, which is always a fun activity and almost always leads to dessert
Just find something you enjoy doing as a couple and maybe you won?t have to focus so much on keeping sex at the top of the priority list.
But if that doesn?t work? There's nothing wrong with penciling in a little play time. We plan everything else!
We don't both always want to do "it" because we may be tired from work, upset after a fight, or feeling dirty from a long day outdoors. But its important to remember the reason why you do the do- the person you're with.
Sex is healthy and a great way to express just how you feel and care. So do what you have to. I'll do almost anything for my partner and I'll switch it up depending on my mood.
Examples:
If we just got in a fight and I'm still upset- he's going to get it rough (but nothing crazy)- its just a great way to rebond and get rid of that excess frustration.
If we're dirty- we bathe together and wash the other's body. You don't have to go in like a porn star (well not every time). I'll never forget the first time we showered together and I knelt down just to wash his legs and feet. He was so content and it made me happy.
Tired- do it sideways (haha).
Need something different- go to a local sex motel with your partner.
I love my partner, he's my friend. So whenever I don't really feel like it- I think of the big picture- happiness forever with my buddy, my guy.
Continue to 'date' each other. We have been married 3ys 10mo and have learned so much about each other since then. One way we spice things up is of course texting through out the day and trying new or different things during sex. Shower are a great intro. best thing and still surprising hubby with is; a month ago when hubby was gone on a trip I had a boudoir photo session done at the house. He still has yet to see all the pics taken. I just give him peeks of a few at a time. Now when his is at the house he can see where the pics were taken and have a nice mental image to savor. This was great for me as well because i am extremely concerned with my weight and was a nice boost to my self esteem to see that even in my eyes I can be sexy. Each day should be an adventure in life!
Sam & Regina Kepley 22530 Irving Rd Chanute, KS 66720 6202124372 kepley07@htomail.com 11-22-83
We reference it often. During dinner on Tuesday night, getting ready for bed on Thursday, texting during the day on Friday. What is it we're referencing?
Naked Fridays of course!
"Only a few more hours before it's officially naked friday!" Send.
When we were single, there was a lot of pressure to make Fridays and Saturdays big nights because it's the weekend so it's time to party. We didn't want to get boring once married, but my husband is a school teacher and is exhausted by Fridays.
So we make Saturday night our date night and Friday is always naked Fridays. We turn on a movie, cuddle up in a blanket on the couch, and enjoy the evening. And we really enjoy it!
The key to great sex for us is we talk, we get things out in the open from our day to day stress whether it be the kids, work, etc...and then we laugh. We laugh a lot and talk amongst ourselves and with our kids. It allows us to release the stress as well as relax a little so we can enjoy each other in the evenings.
rml0121
After being in a relationship for 5 years intimacy had become a low priority in our lives. Sex soon turned into an infrequent act, and when it did happened it was rushed. Knowing our relationship would not last if this continued we knew we had to find a way to get our sex lives back. Our new secret to having an active sex life is to start simple. We get into bed with each other naked and spend time talking, kissing and admiring each others body. By letting the sexual tension build slowly it allows the sex to be more passionate and meaningful. We make sure we take the time to do this because of how close we feel after. And since doing this we have felt closer than ever and now look forward to doing it and are now having sex much more frequently.
We have read about, and like the idea of, fulfilling each other's fantasies, but sometimes he's a little shy about telling me what he likes.
He started writing me explicit stories (with scripted dialogue)! He emails them to me, and saves a copy into my folder on our computer. I read them, and we reenact them at a later date.
We rarely talk about the stories he writes, other than my comments about how much I enjoy them. It gives him a secure way to tell me what excites him.
I am currently reading up on being a dominatrix!
Men and women are different. Biologically. We think about sex differently; we want it in different amounts, even different times of the day, so making it a priority for both partners can be difficult. DH and I therefore have two different views on the subject, and somehow we come together like peas and carrots
DH?s response: So, we engage in all of the standard ?tricks? to enhance our chances of kick startin a little lovin, like jumping in the shower together, sleeping nude, bringing home flowers (do not discount the power of random flowers), new lingerie, sneak attacks, and don?t forget about the power of suggestion (a hint in the morning or the day before can get things going at the end of the day). Once we get things going, spending lots of time with foreplay makes all the difference between going through the motions and a hot memorable occasion you want to repeat.
But when our lives seem to be dropping into a routine, it really makes a difference when we go out and travel to a new city. Now, this may not work for other people, but when we were dating we lived a 1,000 miles apart, and many of our first dates revolved around meeting somewhere new and staying in nice hotels. Nothing can compare to that feeling of sharing something new and interesting with your partner, and let?s be honest, it will inevitably lead to something romantic and satisfying no matter where you are. (We also now have a goal of having sex in all fifty states:) Whether it?s just a couple miles up the road or a whole other country, it is still the best way for us to recharge our sex lives and relive a little bit of how we fell in love.
My response: ?Anytime, anywhere.? Okay, so I wish that was my response. Luckily it is DH?s response, and he has thus far been true to his word! For me, sex is not automatically at the top of my priority list, so I know that I have to consciously put it there. This means I have to take care of ME. I have sexy alone time not only thinking about what DH and I will do together later, but just about how much I care for him, and how wonderful a man he is in general. The more that I do this, the more that I am in the mood when we are together, and the more sex we have, the more often I want it ? it creates a nice circle!
So we say more travel and more sexy alone time!
PS ? Our five year wedding anniversary is in August, and we spent our honeymoon at the St. Anse- what a wonderful way to renew our vows with our new LO!
My husband & I have been together for almost 4 years & I think we have a very active sex life. I send my husband sexy pics of myself while he's at work... by the time he gets home, we're both ready to go
I've also found that when my eating habits aren't great & I'm not regularly working out, that my sex drive goes down. I now workout 3-5 times per week, my body looks better, my sex drive is better, & my husband is happy for both!!!! 
You're not even married yet!
Big liar.
min kaerlighed = my love in Danish
You're not even married yet!
Big liar.
min kaerlighed = my love in Danish
You're not even married yet!
Big liar.
min kaerlighed = my love in Danish
We are a No rules kinda couple! We both believe we should have everything we desire. We role play, dress up, videos, toys, ALWAYS foreplay!! We schedule nothing, it's always on the fly. After a night out we sneak behind some corner and start making out like were 15. It gets it to the next level and very hot. We both find each other very sexy and tell each other all the time. It is nice to hear and makes you feel good. I know people say, wait till you have kids... We have a child, we travel for work, we are up super early for work but we come home to each other every night! He's not in a bar flirting with other girls and I'm not on FB looking up old boyfriends. We only want each other, I fill all his dreams. It's natural for things to change but you bring your partner with you and you make time for each other. We have so much fun and laugh and at each other. Last night he put on my thongs and came out dancing to "Im sexy and I know it"... I about wet my pants... I know it sounds mean but stay in shape! I want my partner to be healthy and I should too. I'm confident and sometimes I surprise him with an outfit that I would only wear in Vegas and he can't keep his hands off me! You have to want it and work at it and we do
My hubby and I have different work schedules so to get things going in the bedroom takes a lot of work. What I do is if I am off the next day or I can go in a little later than usual I will take everything out of the bedroom i.e: pillows, blankets, good smelly stuff. And I drag it all out in the living room and I make a love nest with me in the middle in lingire. It takes things out of the bedroom and it makes for a great night of romance and steamy fun.
My boyfriend is a Marine, so we don't see each other very often. That makes the time we do get to spend together very special and the anticipation leading up to those times a great way to get the magic started. We like to send each other photos, nothing too revealing just enough to get his mind going. For example, I'll send him a photo of the sexy new outfit I just bought for my next trip to see him. He sends me photos after a great workout......I love his muscles.
It also sparks complements, which makes us feel better about ourselves and more "sexy" in general. When he gets a photo and tells me how amazing I look, I can't wait to show him how amazing I can be in the bedroom. ;-)
-JuliaRoseS
We have been married for 2 years and my 18 year old sister moved in with us to go to college down the street, so things got tricky. At first we just did it when she wasn't home or if we were in the shower, because who wants their sister to walk into the kitchen and see them naked on the island? We have spiced things up a bit by making "mini vacations". We find a nice place to have a date night ending with a night in a hotel and lots for foreplay. It's easy to get buck wild, when you don't care who hears you...
We also like to have quickies when people are on the way over, but not typical quickies- ones that keep you wanting more and having to wait until company leaves to finish up.
Another thing we do is send sweet and dirty text/pictures to one another everyday, even if you don't get down, at least you know your spouse is still dreaming about ya.
Then there is always code words we use for sexual things that we want to do later... those always crack me up! When we drop the words in to conversations with friends or family- they have no idea. It's great!