Three bored nesties

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:

I take my previous statement back.

The guy infront of me at Starbucks paid for my drink.

I then paaid for the guy behind me, & tipped the barista a $5. ))

Today WILL be a good day!

How nice!

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
warontv:
I may have woken up on the wrong side of the bed.
I think it's more on the wrong side of the doorbell.

Obviously, I do not like rude awakenings. Lol.

startingover2010 · January 2012

Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?

Well....I moved here without a job, and tons of debt. Granted we are married..

If you have a healthy savings, & plans to eventually get married, I would say look into doing that. Because you can always work at Starbucks before finding a job in your field. Honestly I think it's easier to actually get a job when you live in that state.

So no, I don't think you are crazy. But don't move up there just because your vagina told you so. Lol.

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:

I

your curly hair.

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:
startingover2010:

Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?
Well....I moved here without a job, and tons of debt. Granted we are married..

If you have a healthy savings, & plans to eventually get married, I would say look into doing that. Because you can always work at Starbucks before finding a job in your field. Honestly I think it's easier to actually get a job when you live in that state.

So no, I don't think you are crazy. But don't move up there just because your vagina told you so. Lol.

LOL @ my va-jay-jay telling me what to do! I have no debt except the car, which will be paid off in September. We're talking about getting me up there in May sometime, so that will only be 4 more car payments. The plan is to get married, but I told him that I don't want a ring on my finger until we've lived in the same state, to make sure it will work. As sure as a couple can be, anyway. I only want 2 more rings to go on this finger, so I want to have a good feeling that we can work. Waiting till May will put me through 2 little busy seasons, which will let me make a little OT which will help too. Yikes! Such a big decision!

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:
startingover2010:

I your curly hair.

Thanks! I feel like it gets a little flat when I'm up north. I'm thinking I need to take the length up just a tad, or maybe try a new shampoo. Do you have a shampoo rec for curly, highlighted hair?

FeistyKoala · January 2012

startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?
Well....I moved here without a job, and tons of debt. Granted we are married..

If you have a healthy savings, & plans to eventually get married, I would say look into doing that. Because you can always work at Starbucks before finding a job in your field. Honestly I think it's easier to actually get a job when you live in that state.

So no, I don't think you are crazy. But don't move up there just because your vagina told you so. Lol.

LOL @ my va-jay-jay telling me what to do! I have no debt except the car, which will be paid off in September. We're talking about getting me up there in May sometime, so that will only be 4 more car payments. The plan is to get married, but I told him that I don't want a ring on my finger until we've lived in the same state, to make sure it will work. As sure as a couple can be, anyway. I only want 2 more rings to go on this finger, so I want to have a good feeling that we can work. Waiting till May will put me through 2 little busy seasons, which will let me make a little OT which will help too. Yikes! Such a big decision!

I have read this and will reply when I'm not on the iPad. I pretty much agree with war though

warontv · January 2012

FeistyKoala:
startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?
Well....I moved here without a job, and tons of debt. Granted we are married..

If you have a healthy savings, & plans to eventually get married, I would say look into doing that. Because you can always work at Starbucks before finding a job in your field. Honestly I think it's easier to actually get a job when you live in that state.

So no, I don't think you are crazy. But don't move up there just because your vagina told you so. Lol.

LOL @ my va-jay-jay telling me what to do! I have no debt except the car, which will be paid off in September. We're talking about getting me up there in May sometime, so that will only be 4 more car payments. The plan is to get married, but I told him that I don't want a ring on my finger until we've lived in the same state, to make sure it will work. As sure as a couple can be, anyway. I only want 2 more rings to go on this finger, so I want to have a good feeling that we can work. Waiting till May will put me through 2 little busy seasons, which will let me make a little OT which will help too. Yikes! Such a big decision!
I have read this and will reply when I'm not on the iPad. I pretty much agree with war though

Feisty, How come you cannot post on the iPad?

SO, I think May sounds like the perfect time to move. You are at least thinking about your finances first, so thats good. It sounds like you are making the right decision. Smile

Ps, I'm glad I didn't offend you with the vag comment..I had to run it by DH, cause I, yanno, don't edit what I say and could potentially offend some people. Wink

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

I your curly hair.

Thanks! I feel like it gets a little flat when I'm up north. I'm thinking I need to take the length up just a tad, or maybe try a new shampoo. Do you have a shampoo rec for curly, highlighted hair?

http://www.ouidad.com/Clear-And-Gentle-Shampoo

http://www.ouidad.com/Moisture-Lock

The masters of curly hair.

warontv · January 2012

http://youtu.be/vIixVt4PFz0

Crying

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:
FeistyKoala:
startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?
Well....I moved here without a job, and tons of debt. Granted we are married..

If you have a healthy savings, & plans to eventually get married, I would say look into doing that. Because you can always work at Starbucks before finding a job in your field. Honestly I think it's easier to actually get a job when you live in that state.

So no, I don't think you are crazy. But don't move up there just because your vagina told you so. Lol.

LOL @ my va-jay-jay telling me what to do! I have no debt except the car, which will be paid off in September. We're talking about getting me up there in May sometime, so that will only be 4 more car payments. The plan is to get married, but I told him that I don't want a ring on my finger until we've lived in the same state, to make sure it will work. As sure as a couple can be, anyway. I only want 2 more rings to go on this finger, so I want to have a good feeling that we can work. Waiting till May will put me through 2 little busy seasons, which will let me make a little OT which will help too. Yikes! Such a big decision!

I have read this and will reply when I'm not on the iPad. I pretty much agree with war though

Feisty, How come you cannot post on the iPad?
SO, I think May sounds like the perfect time to move. You are at least thinking about your finances first, so thats good. It sounds like you are making the right decision.

Ps, I'm glad I didn't offend you with the vag comment..I had to run it by DH, cause I, yanno, don't edit what I say and could potentially offend some people.

I think May can work too. I'm just worried about what my family will say. Some will not want me to move without a job. Some won't want me living with him. Some will say don't move without a ring (but I'm proof that a ring doesn't "really" make a difference. It's about the love and promises that you make to each other, and being willing to work together to honor that). I think my mom is the only one who will be at all supportive. Not because she agrees with the decisions (she doesn't want ANY of the 3 things listed up there) but because she doesn't want to push me away or make me feel like I'm alone in it, so she'll suck it up. Especially if it might mean I'll give her grandbabies sooner.

Is it strange that I almost feel like it's more important for you two to agree with my plan than some of my "IRL" (even though y'all are real life too...just not in person...yet) friends? I guess there is a sense that you'll tell me the truth since there's less worry about "hurting" someone. Did that make sense? Maybe I shouldn't nest after 2 glasses of wine.

And you didn't offend at all with that one. I read it on my phone at worked and about died laughing! I'm not particularly easy to offend. And I have a 12 year old sense of humor sometimes, so it works.

Wow. That got long!

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
warontv:
FeistyKoala:
startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

Would you say I'm totally crazy if...

I moved up to Michigan before I paid my car off or had a job? G and I were talking about it last night. He was wondering if I could float my payments for a month or two and just move in with him and look for a job. No rent. But still car payment, car insurance, private health insurance (or COBRA), cell phone, and a little spending money. He's sure I can find something in a month or two, but it's still a gamble. What say you?
Well....I moved here without a job, and tons of debt. Granted we are married..

If you have a healthy savings, & plans to eventually get married, I would say look into doing that. Because you can always work at Starbucks before finding a job in your field. Honestly I think it's easier to actually get a job when you live in that state.

So no, I don't think you are crazy. But don't move up there just because your vagina told you so. Lol.

LOL @ my va-jay-jay telling me what to do! I have no debt except the car, which will be paid off in September. We're talking about getting me up there in May sometime, so that will only be 4 more car payments. The plan is to get married, but I told him that I don't want a ring on my finger until we've lived in the same state, to make sure it will work. As sure as a couple can be, anyway. I only want 2 more rings to go on this finger, so I want to have a good feeling that we can work. Waiting till May will put me through 2 little busy seasons, which will let me make a little OT which will help too. Yikes! Such a big decision!

I have read this and will reply when I'm not on the iPad. I pretty much agree with war though

Feisty, How come you cannot post on the iPad?
SO, I think May sounds like the perfect time to move. You are at least thinking about your finances first, so thats good. It sounds like you are making the right decision.

Ps, I'm glad I didn't offend you with the vag comment..I had to run it by DH, cause I, yanno, don't edit what I say and could potentially offend some people.

I think May can work too. I'm just worried about what my family will say. Some will not want me to move without a job. Some won't want me living with him. Some will say don't move without a ring (but I'm proof that a ring doesn't "really" make a difference. It's about the love and promises that you make to each other, and being willing to work together to honor that). I think my mom is the only one who will be at all supportive. Not because she agrees with the decisions (she doesn't want ANY of the 3 things listed up there) but because she doesn't want to push me away or make me feel like I'm alone in it, so she'll suck it up. Especially if it might mean I'll give her grandbabies sooner.

Is it strange that I almost feel like it's more important for you two to agree with my plan than some of my "IRL" (even though y'all are real life too...just not in person...yet) friends? I guess there is a sense that you'll tell me the truth since there's less worry about "hurting" someone. Did that make sense? Maybe I shouldn't nest after 2 glasses of wine.

And you didn't offend at all with that one. I read it on my phone at worked and about died laughing! I'm not particularly easy to offend. And I have a 12 year old sense of humor sometimes, so it works.

Wow. That got long!

Let's just face it, you tried the fairy tale way, and it didn't end happily ever after. Now you don't have to play by the rules, make your own rules, and don't let anyone tell you what is right or wrong. It is your life, and only you control the things you do with it. You choose what makes you happy, and who you want to share that happiness with.

Is your mom here, or in D? I think she will be supportive, especially once she sees you two are serious. I personally think entering into a commitment (engagement) before living together is an effing nightmare waiting to happen. You have absolutely nothing (besides a couple $$$) to lose. So do what your heart tells you to do!

I think you care about our opinions because you know we won't bullsh*t you, we don't have to sugar coat it, and because we are bada$$, duh.

Drink up!

I'm 12 as well...as if I needed to clarify, lol.

FeistyKoala · January 2012

I can post on the ipad, but I hate typing on it because I don't type like normal--something about the keyboard.

I don't think you're crazy for moving to D but I have general nervous feelings about it. Finding a job blows...I want you to have enough of a buffer in the bank that if you don't find something in two months you will still be able to be financially okay and not solely rely on him for a bit. You have plenty of time to rely on him down the road . I truly believe that if you guys have made such a long distance work that there is definitely a very real possibility that this is forever and I don't think you need a ring to have that at all, so you having a ring on your finger before you move is of matter to me. I think that because of your past you would be better equiped to determine if a man is worth your time, attention, and affection than a lot of other people. You're like me in the sense that this time around we're not making any mistakes. The first time was just a starter marraige-- training for the real thing! Big Smile

I completely understand going for it and I agree that it may be easier to find a job once you're there than it is from here in TX. Plus, it's not like you can just go for an interview on a moments notice as long as you're here. And, you never know if you're missing out on some opportunity because you aren't there "pounding the pavement". BUT, you have to promise me that if a job isn't as forthcoming as we hope it will be you WILL go get a part time job in the interim. I'm gonna have an infant at that point and I'm not prepared to fly with her, but I WILL come up there and haul you to the mall for apps if you do not follow my directions! Wink

Seriously, you'll notice my only reservations are the financial ones. I don't have any reservations about him and your relationship or it's ability to thrive. I just want you to be financially secure enough to handle a little pause in your employment while you find something else. That stress would be terrible. I support the decision to move and I am more comfortable with it being in May than if it were, say, next week.

Where is your mom located? I think mom's just really want their baby's to be happy, and if that's where you need to be to be completely happy she will be supportive. Especially because she knows what it was like for you going through your divorce.

Sorry if I rambled here...C is snoring and it keeps distracting me every time I reach over to poke him. I keep losing my train of thought! FYI: Breathe Right strips suck.

startingover2010 · January 2012

FeistyKoala:

I can post on the ipad, but I hate typing on it because I don't type like normal--something about the keyboard.

I don't think you're crazy for moving to D but I have general nervous feelings about it. Finding a job blows...I want you to have enough of a buffer in the bank that if you don't find something in two months you will still be able to be financially okay and not solely rely on him for a bit. You have plenty of time to rely on him down the road . I truly believe that if you guys have made such a long distance work that there is definitely a very real possibility that this is forever and I don't think you need a ring to have that at all, so you having a ring on your finger before you move is of matter to me. I think that because of your past you would be better equiped to determine if a man is worth your time, attention, and affection than a lot of other people. You're like me in the sense that this time around we're not making any mistakes. The first time was just a starter marraige-- training for the real thing!

I completely understand going for it and I agree that it may be easier to find a job once you're there than it is from here in TX. Plus, it's not like you can just go for an interview on a moments notice as long as you're here. And, you never know if you're missing out on some opportunity because you aren't there "pounding the pavement". BUT, you have to promise me that if a job isn't as forthcoming as we hope it will be you WILL go get a part time job in the interim. I'm gonna have an infant at that point and I'm not prepared to fly with her, but I WILL come up there and haul you to the mall for apps if you do not follow my directions!

Seriously, you'll notice my only reservations are the financial ones. I don't have any reservations about him and your relationship or it's ability to thrive. I just want you to be financially secure enough to handle a little pause in your employment while you find something else. That stress would be terrible. I support the decision to move and I am more comfortable with it being in May than if it were, say, next week.

Where is your mom located? I think mom's just really want their baby's to be happy, and if that's where you need to be to be completely happy she will be supportive. Especially because she knows what it was like for you going through your divorce.

Sorry if I rambled here...C is snoring and it keeps distracting me every time I reach over to poke him. I keep losing my train of thought! FYI: Breathe Right strips suck.

Financially I think I'd be ok for a while. I wouldn't be totally relying on him...that wouldn't be fair to him, and it wouldn't be ok with my ego! I'm working on my budget for the year this week, which will help me figure out my costs if I were to be up there. I'm going to see how that looks and see if I feel comfortable pulling out of savings that much. I don't want to deplete the savings too much, though, because I know that those savings will most likely be paying for any future weddings that occur Wink

I would for sure take a part time something. Maybe not at the mall (because then I might consider shooting myself...I'm just not equipped to handle it). But I'm sure I can find something...substitute teacher, part time bookkepping, something. I would go bonkers after about a month of not having a job I think. So we'll just have to come up with a new reason for you to fly up there (once sweet Emily is a tad older!)

My mom is in Alabama. So she won't be lliving close to me regardless. Once my grandfather is gone, she'll probably (hopefully) move to wherever I am. She's my plan for childcare in the future, so she better! LOL

Thanks for the input ladies. I think I can make May work. I'm going to scrimp and save over the next couple of months, try to work some OT, sell some furniture, etc and see if I can't pay the car off early. I'm not sure I can, but it's worth a try. If I didn't have the car payment I wouldn't really have much reservation, because my monthly expenses would be under $450 probably. I could pull that out of savings for a bit!

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:

I think you care about our opinions because you know we won't bullsh*t you, we don't have to sugar coat it, and because we are bada$$, duh.

That about sums it up!

startingover2010 · January 2012

So sleepy. I stayed up late so I could talk to G when he left work (I think he called around 10:50). Now I can' shake the sleepy. Maybe I need to take a lap around the building to get my blood flowing a little.

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:
startingover2010:

warontv:
startingover2010:

I your curly hair.

Thanks! I feel like it gets a little flat when I'm up north. I'm thinking I need to take the length up just a tad, or maybe try a new shampoo. Do you have a shampoo rec for curly, highlighted hair?

http://www.ouidad.com/Clear-And-Gentle-Shampoo
http://www.ouidad.com/Moisture-Lock

The masters of curly hair.

I'll have to get a small bottle of each to try once my current stuff runs out. Thanks!

startingover2010 · January 2012

I think I just overdid the banana. I snacked on some banana chips when I got to work, then I cut up a banana in my oatmeal. Now I feel STUFFED. I'll probably be starving again by lunch, but right now, ugh.

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
FeistyKoala:

I can post on the ipad, but I hate typing on it because I don't type like normal--something about the keyboard.

I don't think you're crazy for moving to D but I have general nervous feelings about it. Finding a job blows...I want you to have enough of a buffer in the bank that if you don't find something in two months you will still be able to be financially okay and not solely rely on him for a bit. You have plenty of time to rely on him down the road . I truly believe that if you guys have made such a long distance work that there is definitely a very real possibility that this is forever and I don't think you need a ring to have that at all, so you having a ring on your finger before you move is of matter to me. I think that because of your past you would be better equiped to determine if a man is worth your time, attention, and affection than a lot of other people. You're like me in the sense that this time around we're not making any mistakes. The first time was just a starter marraige-- training for the real thing!

I completely understand going for it and I agree that it may be easier to find a job once you're there than it is from here in TX. Plus, it's not like you can just go for an interview on a moments notice as long as you're here. And, you never know if you're missing out on some opportunity because you aren't there "pounding the pavement". BUT, you have to promise me that if a job isn't as forthcoming as we hope it will be you WILL go get a part time job in the interim. I'm gonna have an infant at that point and I'm not prepared to fly with her, but I WILL come up there and haul you to the mall for apps if you do not follow my directions!

Seriously, you'll notice my only reservations are the financial ones. I don't have any reservations about him and your relationship or it's ability to thrive. I just want you to be financially secure enough to handle a little pause in your employment while you find something else. That stress would be terrible. I support the decision to move and I am more comfortable with it being in May than if it were, say, next week.

Where is your mom located? I think mom's just really want their baby's to be happy, and if that's where you need to be to be completely happy she will be supportive. Especially because she knows what it was like for you going through your divorce.

Sorry if I rambled here...C is snoring and it keeps distracting me every time I reach over to poke him. I keep losing my train of thought! FYI: Breathe Right strips suck.

Financially I think I'd be ok for a while. I wouldn't be totally relying on him...that wouldn't be fair to him, and it wouldn't be ok with my ego! I'm working on my budget for the year this week, which will help me figure out my costs if I were to be up there. I'm going to see how that looks and see if I feel comfortable pulling out of savings that much. I don't want to deplete the savings too much, though, because I know that those savings will most likely be paying for any future weddings that occur

I would for sure take a part time something. Maybe not at the mall (because then I might consider shooting myself...I'm just not equipped to handle it). But I'm sure I can find something...substitute teacher, part time bookkepping, something. I would go bonkers after about a month of not having a job I think. So we'll just have to come up with a new reason for you to fly up there (once sweet Emily is a tad older!)

My mom is in Alabama. So she won't be lliving close to me regardless. Once my grandfather is gone, she'll probably (hopefully) move to wherever I am. She's my plan for childcare in the future, so she better! LOL

Thanks for the input ladies. I think I can make May work. I'm going to scrimp and save over the next couple of months, try to work some OT, sell some furniture, etc and see if I can't pay the car off early. I'm not sure I can, but it's worth a try. If I didn't have the car payment I wouldn't really have much reservation, because my monthly expenses would be under $450 probably. I could pull that out of savings for a bit!

You are so sensible.

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
I think I just overdid the banana. I snacked on some banana chips when I got to work, then I cut up a banana in my oatmeal. Now I feel STUFFED. I'll probably be starving again by lunch, but right now, ugh.

Get out of my head!!!

I ate a small bag of banana chips On my way to work, and am now wishing I didn't. Bleh.

Cool it on the nanners girl!

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:

startingover2010:
I think I just overdid the banana. I snacked on some banana chips when I got to work, then I cut up a banana in my oatmeal. Now I feel STUFFED. I'll probably be starving again by lunch, but right now, ugh.
Get out of my head!!!

I ate a small bag of banana chips On my way to work, and am now wishing I didn't. Bleh.

Cool it on the nanners girl!

I don't think my tummy will give me a choice BUT to cool it....

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

warontv:
startingover2010:

I your curly hair.

Thanks! I feel like it gets a little flat when I'm up north. I'm thinking I need to take the length up just a tad, or maybe try a new shampoo. Do you have a shampoo rec for curly, highlighted hair?

http://www.ouidad.com/Clear-And-Gentle-Shampoo
http://www.ouidad.com/Moisture-Lock

The masters of curly hair.

I'll have to get a small bottle of each to try once my current stuff runs out. Thanks!

If I were in AZ I'd be able to get it for you at the pro store there, but unfortunately the crappy stores don't have much. I might still look, but it's doubtful they would have that line.

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
So sleepy. I stayed up late so I could talk to G when he left work (I think he called around 10:50). Now I can' shake the sleepy. Maybe I need to take a lap around the building to get my blood flowing a little.

Oh no! Take a power nap, eyes open.

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:
startingover2010:
warontv:
startingover2010:

warontv:
startingover2010:

I your curly hair.

Thanks! I feel like it gets a little flat when I'm up north. I'm thinking I need to take the length up just a tad, or maybe try a new shampoo. Do you have a shampoo rec for curly, highlighted hair?

http://www.ouidad.com/Clear-And-Gentle-Shampoo
http://www.ouidad.com/Moisture-Lock

The masters of curly hair.

I'll have to get a small bottle of each to try once my current stuff runs out. Thanks!

If I were in AZ I'd be able to get it for you at the pro store there, but unfortunately the crappy stores don't have much. I might still look, but it's doubtful they would have that line.

I'm sure I can find a travel size somewhere to try it out. Maybe Ulta or Sephora some place like. I've been using the same shampoo and cond for probably 4 years now, so it's probably time for a little change anyway.

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:
startingover2010:
So sleepy. I stayed up late so I could talk to G when he left work (I think he called around 10:50). Now I can' shake the sleepy. Maybe I need to take a lap around the building to get my blood flowing a little.
Oh no! Take a power nap, eyes open.

Maybe the sugar from the nanners will kick in. LOL

startingover2010 · January 2012

In the spirit of trying to get the car paid off and be financially "sound" by May to make the move, I'm considering emailing my XBF to get some money back that I loaned him while we were dating. Now, I realize that the chances of me getting said money are slim to none, but I have a hope that he'll "do the right thing" and settle up his debts. So here's the email that I've drafted. I wrote it in September, then didn't send it. Then I revised it in November, but didn't send it. So now, I'm thinking that my best shot (though still small) of getting the money is around now, when he'll be getting his tax return. I just don't know if this is how I want to word the email. I want to be polite, but not open the lines of communication back up. He's not good for me, and I know that. One of our common friends said that I need to be nice in the email, tell him what's going on with me, ask about the kids, etc.. He said if I get straight to the point, E (the X) will just shut down and not even read it. Thoughts?

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I know it has been a while since we last talked. I hear that things have been better for you...I'm so glad to hear that, especially for the boys' sake. As [my coworker that E is friends with] might have told you, he and I get together for wine every couple of weeks and sometimes he'll fill me in a little on the great things that you've got going on for you now. I'm so glad that [new company] was able to work out for you...I think you're in a great position to help them take so many of the clients who loved you at [old company], as some will be thrilled just to know that you'll be working with them again. It sounds like the move was great for your family as well, and the boys will be able to enjoy all of the ameinities that come with living in the suburbs. Not that the Heights was bad by any means, but I'm sure you'll feel they're safer and in a better environment as they get older.

As for me, I've been doing pretty well I suppose. I moved to a new house in the Heights. The old one was apparently full of rats! You wouldn't believe it if you saw it. There was one in particular (I named him Splinter) who came out of the hole by the water heater in the kitchen and would just sit there on the pipes. Don't get me started on what they did to my stuff in storage in Bella's room. The transition to [my "new" company] has been a bit tough. It's a very different environment. The worst part is how much tighter they are around here...less OT, more expensive insurance, shift differentials went down, no more paid meals. Not to mention that [my client] hasn't had any huge projects this year like they did with last year's merger. It's making it a little more difficult to get all the bills paid right now. I guess where I'm going with this is that I wanted to see if there was any chance that I could get some of the money back that I loaned you in the past. I feel bad asking, but I'm kind of in a position that I could really use it. I understand if you can't give all $3500 to me at once. I imagine that you're still working to get everything back in order. I looked on www.paypal.com and saw that you can transfer money for free to me on there...all you do is put in my email address and send money via your checking account. It won't show any account numbers, is secure, and is free as long as you don't use a credit card. I really do hate to ask this and I hope you can understand where I'm coming from on it.

I truly hope that things continue to get better and better for you. I can only imagine how much happier you are now that you have the boys back with you and you know they're safe. I always hated to see how much that tore you up, even though I didn't always have the best reactions at the time.

Take care,

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
warontv:
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warontv:
startingover2010:

I your curly hair.

Thanks! I feel like it gets a little flat when I'm up north. I'm thinking I need to take the length up just a tad, or maybe try a new shampoo. Do you have a shampoo rec for curly, highlighted hair?

http://www.ouidad.com/Clear-And-Gentle-Shampoo
http://www.ouidad.com/Moisture-Lock

The masters of curly hair.

I'll have to get a small bottle of each to try once my current stuff runs out. Thanks!

If I were in AZ I'd be able to get it for you at the pro store there, but unfortunately the crappy stores don't have much. I might still look, but it's doubtful they would have that line.

I'm sure I can find a travel size somewhere to try it out. Maybe Ulta or Sephora some place like. I've been using the same shampoo and cond for probably 4 years now, so it's probably time for a little change anyway.

I know Sephora carries it.

warontv · January 2012

startingover2010:
In the spirit of trying to get the car paid off and be financially "sound" by May to make the move, I'm considering emailing my XBF to get some money back that I loaned him while we were dating. Now, I realize that the chances of me getting said money are slim to none, but I have a hope that he'll "do the right thing" and settle up his debts. So here's the email that I've drafted. I wrote it in September, then didn't send it. Then I revised it in November, but didn't send it. So now, I'm thinking that my best shot (though still small) of getting the money is around now, when he'll be getting his tax return. I just don't know if this is how I want to word the email. I want to be polite, but not open the lines of communication back up. He's not good for me, and I know that. One of our common friends said that I need to be nice in the email, tell him what's going on with me, ask about the kids, etc.. He said if I get straight to the point, E (the X) will just shut down and not even read it. Thoughts?

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I know it has been a while since we last talked. I hear that things have been better for you...I'm so glad to hear that, especially for the boys' sake. As [my coworker that E is friends with] might have told you, he and I get together for wine every couple of weeks and sometimes he'll fill me in a little on the great things that you've got going on for you now. I'm so glad that [new company] was able to work out for you...I think you're in a great position to help them take so many of the clients who loved you at [old company], as some will be thrilled just to know that you'll be working with them again. It sounds like the move was great for your family as well, and the boys will be able to enjoy all of the ameinities that come with living in the suburbs. Not that the Heights was bad by any means, but I'm sure you'll feel they're safer and in a better environment as they get older.

As for me, I've been doing pretty well I suppose. I moved to a new house in the Heights. The old one was apparently full of rats! You wouldn't believe it if you saw it. There was one in particular (I named him Splinter) who came out of the hole by the water heater in the kitchen and would just sit there on the pipes. Don't get me started on what they did to my stuff in storage in Bella's room. The transition to [my "new" company] has been a bit tough. It's a very different environment. The worst part is how much tighter they are around here...less OT, more expensive insurance, shift differentials went down, no more paid meals. Not to mention that [my client] hasn't had any huge projects this year like they did with last year's merger. It's making it a little more difficult to get all the bills paid right now. I guess where I'm going with this is that I wanted to see if there was any chance that I could get some of the money back that I loaned you in the past. I feel bad asking, but I'm kind of in a position that I could really use it. I understand if you can't give all $3500 to me at once. I imagine that you're still working to get everything back in order. I looked on www.paypal.com and saw that you can transfer money for free to me on there...all you do is put in my email address and send money via your checking account. It won't show any account numbers, is secure, and is free as long as you don't use a credit card. I really do hate to ask this and I hope you can understand where I'm coming from on it.

I truly hope that things continue to get better and better for you. I can only imagine how much happier you are now that you have the boys back with you and you know they're safe. I always hated to see how much that tore you up, even though I didn't always have the best reactions at the time.

Take care,

The rat part really skeeves me out. Ew.

As for the rest I like how you worded the payment portion, it's very professional yet personable, with a slight hint of awkward.

startingover2010 · January 2012

warontv:

The rat part really skeeves me out. Ew.

As for the rest I like how you worded the payment portion, it's very professional yet personable, with a slight hint of awkward.

I felt that he might be amused by it. He (the ex) lived in that house with me for a while.

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