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Re: Three bored nesties
The next few weeks through at least the 18th are stupid crazy for me, however i don't want that to stop y'all so plan without me, and if I CAN make it I will, if not, I'll catch the next one. Sorry guys.
So you're going to be a married lady before I get to meet you? Booo!!
What's up ladies? Feisty, you get married in 8 days!!
I've been a bit busy at work the last few days too. It's not much fun. I think I need to book a massage this weekend.
So I finally sent the email to my XBF asking for the money (I had posted drafts of the email here a while back for feedback). I revised it again, talked to G, and sent it last last night. this morning, I got the response "I'm not sure what you're talking about" and "if this is real, then maybe we can work something out when I'm financially stable"
Are you flipping kidding me?? Does he really not remember when I helped with his rent?? Or paid his electric bill in July so his kids would have a/c?? Or bought food so his kids could eat?? Or gave him money to pay his bail bondsman because his XW wrote hot checks?? Or gave him money to pay his attorney so his pending criminal charges (which, I will say were false) could get dropped?? I mean FFS. Come on!
I would remind him of all those things, and how they were a LOAN for when he was previously UNstable.
Oh my dear God.
I just read a story about a couple back home(Arizona) that bruitily raped their 6 week old son until he died.
They also pleaded not guilty.
How could....why would...ugh.
i was just wondering if you ever sent this. What a total sleezebag. I'm tempted to ask if we dated the same guy...
I'm not sure WHAT to even begin to tell you here...is it possible to get copies of receipts or checks or bank statements showing these charges? That would for sure help. What an eff-ing piece of work...
This makes me so sad. I don't even have words...
Unfortunately, I was the weak-willed, co-dependent, post-divorce idiot that gave him cash for things. I typed up my list of the dollar amounts and I'll send that to him this morning. See what he says from there. If I can at least get him to admit that he owes it, maybe I can take it somewhere. If he keeps playing the stupid games, I'll either a) just forget it and walk away, or b) see if I can bribe C with wine/beer or baby clothes to write him an angry "lawyer letter" to at least scare him a little bit.
) (I'm kidding on that last one...I think. I'll see how I feel after I get the next response)
That just makes me sick. Absolutely sick.
Between his MESSY divorce and custody battle, and the multiple (false) criminal chages that his XW filed on him, it might trigger a PTSD meltdown! I am still somewhat tempted to do it though...
Do not hesitate to contact C at all!!! I think when we finally get together he might have to come too, because he knows y'all pretty well at this point.
War, I swear he's not stalking you, but he's noticed your car on Greenhouse multiple times and says "Hey! I wonder if that's Meghan!" I am usually sitting there oblivious. The other day he said he saw a GUY driving a white V and wondered if it was your husband. C is adorable
I keep telling him to look for a blonde head to know if it's you. You'll meet him next week...he's tagging along for the hair unless I can think of something else I need him to do.
He has noticed this week that Fry takes less time than Greenhouse, but he's also on the road at 7 am so that may help.
We are very close to each other. When you commented about the fireworks on NY's I wondered if we were seeing some of the same ones...the lack of trees allowed us to see for MILES. It was like a war zone.
My H takes Fry early in the morning. The lights dont switch to commuter traffic until 8ish on Greenhouse, where Fry I believe is constant commuter. So that might be it.
97 days...OMG! We ordered her mattress and bedding today! Whee! http://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/emerson-nursery-bedding/?pkey=bgirls-nursery-bedding
I am SO ready to meet her. last night we were listening to her on the doppler and I was kind of pushing around on my belly. I found a little ridge, don't know if it was an arm or a hand (or her face...JK, kinda) but anyway, I poked at it and she poked back!!! So I got C's hand and showed him what to do and she played back with him! It was AWESOME!
You're silly
I love the bedding! I'm a paisley kind of gal!
That's so sweet that y'all got to play with her last night! I can only imagine how excited you both are to meet her!
I had a full-blown panic/anxiety attack this morning. I've been a little anxious ever since Friday, when I told my brother "the plan" for heading north...complete with me living with G. He took it better than I expected, but I was just so nervous going in to it. Then yesterday I got the response back from the f'ing-alcoholic-a$$hat saying that I was crazy and he had no idea what I was talking about, and that he felt bad for my next ex for how much money I'll try to take him for. I get that this should just piss me off and make me want to throat punch him, but this flipping guy knows how to play me. I see now that he did it the whole time we were dating, but he knows JUST what to say or how to say things to totally play me the way he wants to. So I got super emotional and pissed off. Then I woke up screaming and crying from a nightmare at 5 this morning, and couldn't go back to sleep. In the dream I was in my car in a parking garage and some guy approached me and tried to attack me. Then he opened a door before I could lock them. I pushed the onstar panic button, but nothing happened. I was banging on my windows and screaming but people just looked at me and kept going. It was terrible. Made even worse by the fact that I'm supposed to meet some lady at Starbucks tonight to sell that purse, but now I'm petrified to go alone. I'm going to call my dad and see if he'll drive down and go with me. Basically, I spent an hour and a half freaking out, sobbing, and shaking this morning. I think I'm doing ok now, but not a good way to start a week. I haven't had an attack like that, well, since I broke up with the idiot before I guess.
Your nightmare sounds awful--especially when it's something that seems so real. Good idea to get your dad to go with you. Even if you HADN'T had that dream it is still 100% safer to have him there. You never know what crazy scam people are running. This woman may be a perfectly wonderful lady, but people are crazy and you can never be too safe. Hopefully dad can go with you!
Clearly, XBF gives you terrible anxiety. I'm stuck between just completely forgetting that he even exists and blowing off all the money he owes you because you do NOT need to have any more interaction with him whatsoever, and then the other part of me that just wants to tell him off and knock him and his loser self down to size... something passive aggressive like "I know it's hard to realize that you are in fact a person who cannot support himself and has to rely on a woman to bring home the bacon. I understand that that can be very immasculating. I would think that in order to keep yourself from having that label you would want to repay your debts, however I can see that being considered a leach who cannot support himself and his dependents is how you would actually like to be known. Through this though, we have learned that it really is true that men who rely on women for financial support and refuse to pay their debts have smaller male genitalia. That direct correlation is enough for me to know that you are an insignificant human being and not worth any more of my time. "
(If I didn't have such preggo brain I could write a much more scathing letter. I will work on it...)